What one must take into consideration when choosing his/her mate, if sexual life is ok before the marriage? These issues were discussed by priest Ter Koryun Matevosyan, Candidate of Psychology, Associate Professor Seyran Amiryan and lawyer Tatevik Davtyan.
This unique meeting was initiated by YSU Student Council in the cooperation with Armenian Apostolic Church Youth Union. YSU Faculty of Theology third year student Lili Alexanyan made a report on the symbol of the marriage. It is during the marriage when the couple becomes one body, being blessed by God. The first marriage was in Eden between Adam and Eva.
Speaking of the importance of the marriage, Ter Koryun mentioned that as we are Christians, main steps in our life must coincide with seven symbols, and the marriage is one of them. Love and respect is required here. When girl announces at the altar about her obedience, it does not mean she is slave. And boy is one who has to care of her and not just give orders, - said the Priest, reminding that husband is the head of the family, and wife body. Their road must be the same.
Lawyer Tatevik Davtyan states that the cases of divorces have increased in our country. Ter Koryun says with regret that when divorcing, couple does not come to church for an advice. One of the participants of the meeting, ordinator from YSMU, clinical sexologist Narek Baghdasaryan is sure that one of the reasons for divorce is the absence of sexual life before the marriage. He is also surprised that the girls virginity is a subject for fetishism in our society. Come to our clinics and see how many girls come to restore the hymen. We must realize if want to be cheated or not, letting everyone to decide the moral standards for himself, - he said.
Church has got its distinct position regarding this issue. The white dress of the bride is the symbol of virginity and purity. It can not be in other way, - said Ter Koryun. He is dissatisfied with the decline of the morality among our youngsters: The morality has really declined, for example, the sex-symbol Pamela Anderson is ranked higher than a holy man. Seyran Amiryan is also concerned about the anarchy, especially on TV. He also mentioned of the moral values, which are passed to our youth by the society, when making a choice.
We have gone far away from the main direction. We must not pay attention to the brand of car or the height of the fence, but on the fact that man must be cautious to live with him side by side for decades. The Ancient East thinkers used to say that love has got three branches body, idea and soul. Body gives birth to the wish, idea - to respect, soul - to affection. The attention must be stressed on these points, - said the psychologist.